A Critical Analysis of the Holy Matrimony Quagmire for the Black Man and Black Woman

 

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From the Melanin Man:

How ironic I discuss this topic only a couple of days from my anniversary. But I feel the need to get this off my chest right now, so to hell with it.

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I haven’t been married that long. Most would assume that I need more years under my belt to be qualified to speak on the topic of marriage, to spit out some worthwhile wisdom.

Well, I beg to differ.

In the four years that I’ve been “officially” married (not counting two years of courting and breaking up, making up sessions), I’ve learned a lifetime’s worth of wisdom regarding this pastime called marriage. And that wisdom has been supplemented with even more knowledge from speaking with older men and elders who have been married (and some cases, divorced!) longer than I’ve been married.

I have observed many things within the confines of marriage, but there are three in particular that stand out to me, such as:

     1.    Man and woman (the definition of a authentic marriage) tend to come into the situation with  unrealistic expectations of who and what their spouse SHOULD be to them. When I decided go through my personal transformation, my wife was supportive when it came to improving my physical health and losing weight, even though she did not like the method that I was going about it. It was major adjustment for her when I dropped meat from my diet, and she continues to this day to remind me how she misses that part of me.

Regarding my intellectually and spiritual growth, she has had major reservations. Giving up religion and traditional concept of God has not gone over well for her. She does not fully respect my newfound opinions on what Black life should be, the importance of melanin, how life and reality is not what it seems, etc. She is weary of the direction that I am going.

2.        In this Westernized version of marriage,  it is virtually impossible to have a relationship (intimate or non-intimate) with the opposite sex, other than your spouse. Surprise, surprise. This one is a given. But if know anything about the nature of man, it is not the most realistic to maintain. Recently in my life, I have came across women who have intrigued me, not necessarily sexually, but mentally and spiritually in ways that have been comparable, and in some cases, more than what I have received from my wife.

And you know the funny thing? I don’t feel once ounce of guilt.

3.         The imagery of a marriage in this society matters a little too much these days. We know marriage will not be “perfect” from any stretch of the imagination. But that doesn’t stop married folk from putting on a front in the midst of family and friends. Everyone wants to play Keep Up With the Jones. Every married couple on some level seeks to strive for that white picket fence, “American Dream” fantasy. Competition, a sacred American tradition, is the sacred underlying factor in all of this.

I’ve never been the competitive type either. At this juncture in my life, I don’t give two flying you-know-whats about what people think about me. Now, my wife on the other hand…

She’s not materialistic whatsoever, but  she does have a very strong tendency to care about what others think about her, and that extends into the family unit. That appears to be a common trait amongst Westernized, Americanized women, no matter ethnicity.

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This Westernized, religified version of marriage serves as a microcosm to the current reality that dominates the scene, a restrictive condition to the true nature and potential of the archetypal Black Man and Black Woman.

As I stated in a post concerning the drawbacks of compromising, in reference to individual growth, when both spouses have totally different mindsets it creates problems.  I said it once, I said it twice, and I’ll say it again: MEN CREATE THE REALITY, WOMEN MAINTAIN IT! In my case, I have chosen a mindset that embraces my Black nature, and I desire to create the reality based off of it. My wife, like the majority of our Black women in this paradigm, has the mindset of what I explained in number 3 above (and here.)  And there is the dilemma.

I want nothing to do with that foolishness. It goes against everything that I’m trying to be as a Black Man who is becoming more aware by the millisecond. The sad part about it is that I truly and dearly love my wife, and there is potential in her to cross over into the dark side.

But love is NOT enough in this war for Black liberation.

Despite what has been preached by the state and its sheep, love and marriage are not synonymous with each other. Now, I understand why arranged marriages were prevalent and still occur to this day, basically because it’s not based off the superficiality of love we’ve been duped into practicing these days (Gotta check out “The Science of Love” by John Baines, folks!) Marriage SHOULD be considered a partnership, a business arrangement to achieve a common goal. In the case of liberation for the Black Man and Black Woman and a return back to their archetypal selves, marriage SHOULD be used as a weapon to achieve that goal.

For any other reason, we’re just playing a GAME, like any other card game, board game, or video game we’ve past the time with. That’s what the powers-that-be (or the powers-that-wanna-be) have turned it into, a profitable one on so many levels. And just like any game you play, you have boundaries, rules and regulations you have to abide by.

“NO CHEATING ON THE TEST.”

“NO CHEATING ON YOUR TAXES.”

“NO CHEATING ON YOUR SPOUSE.”

Aha!

 

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(Side note 1: I can do a post strictly on the word “cheat”, and how the powers-that-wanna-be use the label to keep people in check. I just might.)

I always wondered when it came to the topic of having affairs, mistresses, side chicks or side dudes, the accused would be cursed with that label.

 

 

Courtesy of Google  :

cheat

v.

1. act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage especially in a game or examination.

2. avoid (something undesirable) by luck or skill.

n.

1. a person who behaves dishonestly in order to gain an advantage.

 

 

A couple of questions:

1.     If you told your spouse upfront you  were having feelings or thoughts for another man/woman without physically acting on it, would you still be a “cheater?” 

The act has already been birthed in your mind, so the act has already occurred.  That’s what matters anyway…mind OVER matter, baby!

2.    Are you really cursed with sin because you had feelings for another man/woman besides your spouse?

(I’m telling you, you need to check out that book.)

Take a look at nature amongst animals. How many monogamous relationships do you find in the animal kingdom? “But man is greater than animal,” you say. “He should know better than.” Is that your ego talking or are you’re just  repeating what you’ve been told?

I can say with all honesty that the animal kingdom has an advantage. A tiger knows what it is. An eagle knows what it is. A bear knows what it is.

Do you know what you are, Black Man and Black Woman?

 

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Once upon a time long ago, when Black folk dominated the world stage,  polygamy was not a side-eye taboo. It was our culture. A few countries today still practice the tradition, but it’s not prevalent as it used to be. And definitely not in the regions of the earth that it should be in this day and age.

Every wonder why polygamy is illegal and shunned in the West (the dominant power at the moment?) IGNORE the propaganda, it just so happens the cream-of-the-crop Black Men and Women also reside in the West. Even though the majority of us are the walking dead, our genes are still  second-to-none on the planet. This is due in part to the times of “slavery”, with the mixing of blood between the different captive African tribes.

When the time comes when we WAKE UP (its happening as we speak in bits and pieces), and we practice that culture and walk out our destiny…

Oh…boy.

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The Black Man, who is connected to his archetypal self and knows HIS-story, has the capability to love more than one woman.  That same Black Man will not fool around with any woman outside of the one he already has if they are not of the same frequency, and if it does not perpetuate a reality of Black empowerment and unity that can benefit ALL PARTIES INVOLVED.

The Black Woman, who is connected to her archetypal self and knows her culture, understands and overstands that her worth is NOT determined by the ability to have and KEEP her man. The Black Woman knows her ability to nurture the spark of that man (his seed, which, in the physical form translates to children, and the mental and spiritual form translates to that reality mentioned previously) is of the upmost importance.

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In this paradigm, the state has used marriage in its limited form as a tool to keep not only Black folk, but the masses in general, docile, under control, and for accounting purposes. They have certainly made marriage an institution that is CONSUMERISTIC BY NATURE and only benefits those who wish to keep and maintain power.

What is one of the top reasons for divorce (which is another lucrative byproduct from marriage if and when it dissolves, concocted by the state?)

Finances.

A consumeristic marriage is a prosperous marriage in this reality.

Remember when I said marriage is only a “microcosm” on what occurs on the grand scale?

Can you imagine a marital union structure that doesn’t have to depend on fiat money to be successful? One where there was less competition and more cooperation and sharing amongst one another?

Less capitalistic and more collective?

LESS MONOGOMOUS AND MORE POLYGAMOUS???

Our husbands and wives would stop looking at each other as their property, and more like unique beings in the human form. 

(Side note 2: You apply this thinking in religion, it’s funny how the popular religions of today are styled in monotheism, versus polytheism that was prominent back in the day. Just saying…)

 

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I can go on and on about this, and there will probably be more posts to follow concerning this matter. But I think I’ve said enough to digest for a while on this one.

What I’ve said I don’t say out of spite or misery.  Because besides the occasional argument me and my wife may have or the observations I listed previously, I’m pretty satisfied with my marriage. We have a good situation going on, according the benchmark set by the current paradigm.

I’m just calling it like I see it. I seek  liberation in and around my life on every level; the status quo doesn’t bother her that much. It is only so far we can go before one of us will have to submit and compromise to keep this ball rolling.

Hopefully it’s not muah. But that’s why we play the game, so to speak.

SMH…that’s a crying shame.

 

 

Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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BLACKMAN-BLACKWOMAN Series: Black Men, Where Do We Go From Here?

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From the Melanin Man:

 

I’ve been meaning to push to post out now for a couple weeks, but been sidetracked with my mundane work tasks lol. It may be my birthday today (yay!) but I’ve been needing to get this post off my chest, so…

(Side note: Plus, let’s be real. If the current calendar had never been concocted by the powers-that-be, we would never know when our birthdays would be. Is it really that big of a deal? lol )

I wrote  about the  importance of our women, now it’s time to focus on the Black Man.

 

 

 

To my Black brothers from other mothers, I have to be honest with you…

We are the walking dead!

And I’m not just talking about those of us who are in jail, unemployed, deadbeat husbands and fathers, or whatever label the media places on us.

I’m talking about the ENTIRE LOT of us. Even the very small few of us who are succeeding, according to European standards, are fading away as well.

Ask yourself this question, Black Man: Are you REALLY the head of your household when you’re respecting the rules and regulations put in place by another species of man? When will we realize that we can’t break away from those who don’t care for us if they are the ones educating, employing, clothing, and feeding us?  

No wonder  the  majority of our Black Women have lost respect for us, Black Man, consciously and subconsciously. Whether or not we’re living in the household.

Who told us and set the standard for what a legal marriage should be?

Who gives us the two thumbs up when we decide choose to divorce?

Who do our women run to in order to receive child support and alimony from?

For me personally, the more I see the bullshit, the more I realize I’m NOT the man I want or need to be! Black Man, we need to create our own reality, a reality that will benefit the welfare of our women and children.

 

 

We should NOT mimic a man who is quite honestly physically, mentally, and spiritually inferior to the Black Man in every way.

WE should NOT place the protection and security of that reality within the womb of a woman who is NOT the original woman on the planet, the Black Woman.

(Another side note: Even at a young age, my mama would tell me, “You betta not bring no white gurl to my house.” Funny thing is, my mama is not nearly as conscious as I am today. She’s a Christian woman through and through lol. But she was aware enough to make such a statement.  I could never understand how a self-proclaimed woman of God could say such a thing.

But as I gotten older, I get it. No matter how much the media tries to brainwash us, nature is nature. If you are of nature, you want to be with your own.

Annnnnnd, it made me realize how much of a farce religion truly is. )

 

Black Man, bottom line, you are NOT EQUAL to your white, Caucasoid counterpart! For those of you who disagree, I don’t apologize. You can call me prejudice, racist, or flat out a bigot. This is how I see it, and there ain’t nothing going to change that.

So what should we aspire to be, brethren?

When you carry the God-particle (MELANIN!), you are suppose to express yourself and reality as such: in a GOD-FORM!!  That may sound preposterous, even borderline pompous and arrogant to many of us quite frankly.

But do your research. It’s TRUTH!

What is God?

I don’t believe in that superhero, -miracle-working human archetype, birthed from the Westernized, European frame of mind. That’s how the white, Caucasoid mindset perceives it, and want the masses to perceive it.

In my opinion, God is boundless and unlimited in its creativity, thinking, and expression. God is chaotic, ungovernable by external forces, yet composed, calm, and self-assured. God is omnipresent in every nook and cranny of nature and the universe.

You are essentially God in the human form , Black Man, according to your own unique talents and gifts.

Black Men, by accepting that reality, we unlock the GOD (or GODDESS lol) that is within the Black Woman. That gives her the opportunity to materialize ourselves, through her own talents and gifts, on this plane of human existence. Although we shouldn’t be looking at a two dimensional television screen in the first place, there’s a reason there’s an extreme dearth of Black Man-Black Woman relationships portrayed in a positive light on the screen. The Black Man-Black Woman relationship  will destroy this reality as we know it.

Yet the more they promote  the “We Are All Equal” message, interracial marriages, integration, etc., the wheels keep rolling on.

We’ve ALLOWED the powers-that-be to do unimaginable things to neuter and control our God nature. From the death foods,  restrictive religion and unimaginative spirituality, to the train-to-serve-Massa style of education and the mundane joy-killing life routines, we really are DEAD MEN WALKING!

I’ll give you an example, by way of a close friend of mine: For those of you who still frequent church , I want you to do an observation. Check out whose  doing most of the work in the church. Is it the men or the women? And on any given Sunday, check out the body language of the men versus the women during service? Who’s into the message more so than the other?

The Black Woman is game, guys. She’s indeed LIT, waiting for that spark **wink wink**. In spite of the wave of new age feminism and the “I Don’t Need a Man” foolishness, nonetheless, Black women who have the desire to express true  womanhood have no problem following the leadership of a man. They’re just following  the wrong man, consciously and subconsciously. And it’s killing them on ALL LEVELS (a great reference to check out on this matter is “The Wounded Womb” by Dr. Phil Valentine.) If there is ONE reason the Black Woman shouldn’t be in the workplace (besides the fact that it goes against her nature as a woman)  it is that Black Men (those who are Black-minded) can’t really protect her from the stresses of a white male-dominated workplace (e.g. sexual harassment) considering its NOT  a domain he created.

 

 

With the way I think now, I can honestly say that there are not ANY Black Men, peer or elder, in my life that I know personally who has the ability to stand on their own two feet, including myself, absent the assistance of the white male in any fashion. I know men who have parts to them that are valid and resonate with me tremendously, but they, we, are not WHOLE as men, still operating by the whims of colonizers.

That’s how I see it.

I accept the possibility that I may never experience total liberation as a Black Man in my lifetime. But that won’t keep me from trying.

It’s what I strive for now…as a Black Man.

Because in my heart of hearts, there is nothing else worth living for…as a Black Man!

 

 

I hope there are a few of you out there, my Black brethren, that share that same sentiment.

 

 

Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

An Analysis: Black and Introverted in a White Man’s World

 

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From the Melanin Man:

For the longest, I’ve considered myself a staunch introvert.

I’m not too big on crowds. I am more comfortable with one-on-one interactions instead of group dialogues. I enjoy my spending time with myself, by myself, and away from everyone else.

But was that by nature, or by design?

From what I recall, prior to my parents’ separation when I was only 10, I was more talkative, more outgoing, more vibrant, more confident as a young kid than I was in my later teens, and quite honestly, well into college and young adult age. Basically, I was more on the extroverted side.

With dad leaving and not being as involved as he once had been before the split, I started to be more shy and timid, afraid to speak up and embarrassed to speak out…

…to defend myself…

…to express my opinions and thoughts, OR…

even introducing myself to the ladies lol smh.

In this parasitic white-European society, it is crucial for the Black mother and the Black father  to stay involved in the development of their offspring throughout their adolescent years.

If not, well, we know what the consequences are, from others we know or through our own personal experiences.

After dad left the scene, I was easy pickings.

I may have dodged the trappings of  teen pregnancy, the drug game, gang life, jail or even an early death, but I became withdrawn nevertheless.  Going thru an educational system (the most essential tool used by our adversary) that does everything in its power to subdue the unique individuality of the Black child can turn the greatest of our children to reclusive  and isolated beings.

Through means such as…

…using medical diagnoses like ADD/ADHD (yeah, they tried to put that label on me. Thank you mom for fighting that!) to keep the Black child medicated and sedated…

…having primarily white-European female teachers who ADVERTANTLY adhere to upholding an illusionary white supremacy doctrine and know nothing about raising or caring for the welfare of Black children whatsoever…

…being influenced by their fellow Black peers and loved ones, who are brainwashed themselves through programming, with bullying and peer pressure to conform and fall in line…

…parents who are, figuratively speaking, deaf, dumbed-down, and blind that they have no clue how to actually get the best out of their offspring but to go by the tried and true method…

..this society has perfected the art of repressing and oppressing the natural greatness and genius of the Black child!!

Granted, despite all of that, we have managed to find major success  in every field and arena imaginable, in spite of our personal circumstances (either two-parent, one-parent, no parent home, etc.)  Yet that success is still based off the rules and framework of a white-European minded archetype that goes against our true nature as highly-melanated beings.

We can’t be who (and what) we truly are. Or rather, we are not ALLOWED to be.

That would obliterate the delusion that is white supremacy.

That’s why it is a must, a requirement actually, right now in this day and age that the Black mothers and fathers of today’s Black youth are WOKE and CONSCIOUS of, first and foremost, themselves and their culture,  as well as the paradigm we are currently TRAPPED in.

With THIRD EYE (first eye) Black parents teaching their offspring, the demise of this destructive white-Eurocentric paradigm will surely be achieved.

I acknowledge that my dad’s departure from the family unit took a toll on my physical, mental, and physical health, yet I refuse to place the blame entirely on his shortcomings. When I think about it from a spiritual perspective, my decision to draw within after my dad’s absence was a defense mechanism to shield me from a world that is not keen on Black pride or excellence in any shape form or fashion. From my recollection, Dad, may he rest his soul  in peace and power, was not aware or awaken to the true machinations of this paradigm. I truly believed that if he had been more involved in my adolescent years, at best, he would have only taught me simply how to survive (see: perpetuate) the current paradigm, not to DEPART from it and to DESTROY it.

Not to say that I didn’t need or want my dad during that time in life, but sometimes I ask myself: the man I am striving to be, was I better off?

(If it seems like I’m placing a lot of responsibility on Black men, refer to this post for perspective. Also, there will be second part to that post that is specifically geared toward the men.)

I see my dilemma as a microcosm of the Black collective in general today, introverted and withdrawn. Only until adulthood through my own extenuating circumstances did I began to fully embrace my Blackness, my melanated self, and broadcast it for the world to see, no matter the circumstances.

The result? The Melanin Man.

When will we, Black Man and Black Women, start to become more extroverted as a collective like we once were not too long ago?

 

Sooner or later, our true nature, when we embrace it, will come to the surface eventually!

As the saying goes…as above, so below! Or more aptly put for this post…as below, So ABOVE!

 

Stay Black and embrace that melanin, family!

 

Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

 

 

 

 

 

 

Passing and Receiving Recognition : The Sunshine Blogger Award

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From the Melanin Man:

A fellow blogger, Luminous Life Links , nominated me for an award recently, The Sunshine Blogger Award. I love that title! It’s nice to know that I am able to relate and connect with people at this stage in my life. That means my blogging efforts are not in vain. Here a description of the award:

 

The Sunshine Blogger Award is an award given from one blogger to another as a way to promote community and boost moral. Bloggers give this award to an equal whom they feel embody creativity and talent.

 

The RULES!

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog.
  2. Compose a post on your blog and answer the 11 question asked by the blogger who nominated you
  3. Nominate 11 other bloggers and give them new questions to answer.
  4. Notify your nominees and display the Sunshine Blogger Award on your post.

 

My Questions and Answers:

  1. What is your biggest accomplishment to date? Besides my kids, writing a semi-memoir/novel that I’m in the process of editing. Hopefully I can get it published by the end of this summer.
  2. Who in your life has influenced you the most? My mom first in my adolescence, then I would say more recently my mentor TB (his initials) who influenced and encouraged me to go down the current path I’m one.  
  3. What is one of your hidden talents? It’s more so that I don’t use it often than being hidden, but I’m a decent singer.
  4. If you could have donate 100k to any charity of your choice, which charity would it be and why? I would rather donate my time and energy than money. I value the sweat equity. Plus I don’t trust charities no ways.
  5. Name one thing you want to do before you die. I want to go skydiving once before I leave this plane.
  6. Name a guilty pleasure. I won’t be too deep today LOL so I ‘ll go the food route: Red velvet cake and Cool Ranch Doritos.
  7. What is your biggest insecurity? Did you overcome it? How? Honestly over the last two years I’ve kept my insecurities in check, but if I had to pick one that gets me every now and then, I would say my body weight of course. I have control of it mostly,  but there are times when I have to avoid being naked in front of the mirror  or I’ll become self-conscious. The mirror is the worst invention EVER I tell ya!!!
  8. How did you come up with your blog name? I wanted a name that punctuated the essence of me and the mindset I wanted to have, thus birthed The Melanin Man.
  9. How long have you been blogging? A little over two years.
  10. What is up next for your blog? I talked about health, diet, and world affairs as it concerned Black folk when I first started. But now looking to move toward more melanin and spritiual/metaphysical content.
  11. Where do you see your blog and yourself in the next 6 months to a year? Still alive and well hopefully LOL the blog and me ;-). I see myself becoming even more detached emotionally and spiritually from the madness/matrix/illusion. For me personally that’s the only logical step at this point on my journey.

 

Here are 11 of my favorite blogs (in no particular order). Thank you for sharing yourself and inspiring me to be a better me! Your blood, sweat, and words are not in vain, fam.

Show them some love when you have a chance:

  1. Kushite Empire, Kushite Prince
  2. black burgundy, Kelley
  3. diary of a negress
  4. blackmystory
  5. Whispers of a Womanist, C.C. Saunders
  6. kindfeelings, JajaWallace
  7. MINDSIGHTCOLLECTIVE
  8. shelbycourtland, Shelby Courtland
  9. Aisle C
  10. 25, Black, and Alive, Cliff Green
  11. Luminous Life Links  (I may not suppose to re-nominate the person who nominated me, but I like your blog a lot! lol.)

 

Nominees: Please see the rules above. After you compose your blog post and answer the 11 questions, please come back to this post and comment with the URL for your post. Also, feel free to share any thoughts about this experience.

 

Here’s the 11 questions:

  1. What inspired you to start blogging?
  2. If blogging did not exist, what other avenues would you use to express yourself?
  3. What is the biggest regret that you have? Can you rectify it?
  4. What is the one place you haven’t visited that you would want to visit?
  5. Name one skill you would like to master before you die.
  6. If you could pick one blogger you would want to meet in person, who would it be?
  7. What is the one thing you would change about yourself?
  8. What animal describes you best?
  9. Whose had the greatest impact in your life?
  10. What does being Black  mean to you?
  11. Where do you see yourself five years from now?

 

Review the rules before writing your post (if you decide to do so LOL!)

 

Enjoy your day, fam!

 

 

Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

BLACKMAN-BLACKWOMAN Series: The Black Woman is the Protector of the Black Man

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From the Melanin Man:

 

Caution: Hey fellas, I’m not trying to get brownie points with the ladies here. I’m simply expressing my true feelings on these matters. So don’t feel slighted…

 

I’m a pretty decent player of chess. I haven’t played in years, so I have to dust off my skills so I won’t embarrass myself the next time (?) I do play the game. But I have to say, chess is the best and YES, overused analogies to the game (or illusion?) of life.

Most of us who are familiar and practitioners of the game of chess will admit that the Queen is the most powerful and dynamic piece on the board. That is a gimmee. Just as the King, the Queen can move north-south, east-west, and diagonally. The difference is that the Queen can move as many spaces at a given turn whereas the King can only move one space at a time. And just like the Castle, Knight, Bishop, and Pawns, her duty is to protect her King.

Just about every chess player will tell you that the Queen is the ultimate x-factor within the game. That same thought applies also in the game of Life.

On the surface it appears that the Black Woman is low on the totem pole in terms of respect and value on the social, political, biological, basically in all facets of the paradigm. In actuality, the Black Woman is THE FOUNDATION AND BASIS of that totem pole, the supreme being on the planet only matched by her male counterpart the Black Man. Yet if us Black men were to be truly honest with ourselves, the Black Woman is the strongest being between the two of us.

The belief that “women are the weakest species” is a half-truth; from a physical perspective that may be the case. But on the spiritual/metaphysical level they have their male counterparts beat by a country mile, because primarily the Black Woman has the stronger connection to Nature between the two.

In the BLACKMAN-BLACKWOMAN Relationship Part 1 and Part 2, I explained what the true dynamics should look like between the Black Man and Black Woman: Black men are to create new realities/solve the problems/ provide new visions, Black women are to nurture/foster/cultivate those new realties through conducive environments and vibrant offspring. Basically the Black Man is the agent of change (acid, the catalyst), and the Black woman is the securer (base, the foundation) of that change and how it will be manifested.

 

(Side note 1: It’s popular opinion that women, on whole, need to feel security from the man. Maybe in the physical realm, through finances, physicality, etc. When it comes to what truly matters in the long run, the man is really in need of the woman’s security  to realize his vision.)

(Side note 2: A analogy within an analogy, in Kemetstry (Chemistry), when an acid is mixed with base solution, the acid transforms the base into a new substance. After the transformation is complete, the acid is dissolved and only the new substance remains. Maybe there is a correlation to why women, particularly married women, commonly outlive their husbands. Must be Nature, huh?!)

 

Yet we place too much emphasis on the decrepitude state that a good number of our Black men find themselves in. We should realize that when the Queen, the Black Queen,  is apprehended in chess, the game is effectively over (unless you are the very, very few who’s skilled enough to hold your own without the Black Queen, which is extremely hard when your opponent has their white Queen still in play.) The Black Man (King) does not have a fighting chance to thrive or even survive when his Black Woman (Queen) has been captured and co-opted by his white rival(s). His vision cannot be realized nor actualized when his woman has been seized and brainwashed with a European mindset that is totally detrimental to the essence of the Black Woman and subsequently, the Black Man.

As a tool used  by her white King and a false ally of the white Queen, the Black Woman herself is transformed into a change agent (a male imitation) and dispatched to the Black man to compete with and eventually force his surrender to assimilate into the Eurocentric, Westernized way. Unfortunately and on most occasions inadvertently, that parasitic mindset is passed down to their offspring.

Game. Set. Match.

I love the fact that my sistas are achieving in every profession imaginable, from S.T.E.M. based professions to law and politics to entrepreneurship. Y’all want the good life. Plus, a good number of y’all these days are the breadwinners and have to hold the fort down for your families. These examples only exemplify the brilliance and ingenuity that y’all possess, and its BEAUTIFUL baby!

But ask yourself the following questions, ladies:

Whose world are you supporting and keeping alive by participating within its machinations?

Is it a world envisioned by your true equal, the Black Man?

Does it take advantage of ALL of your gifts and talents that you’re aware and unaware of?

Is that melanin of yours really being put to the test?

Don’t get me wrong, sistas, the Black Man overall is missing in action. We lost our spiritual connection somewhere along the way and, thus, our vision to return to Blackness. Minus the few Black men who have continued to fight the good fight, we’ve waved the “white flag”, unchallenging and incorporating into white supremacy. Consequently, we lost the trust of our women.

So we have our work cut out for us.

But trust, the tide will turn and we will find our way home once again, my Queens and Goddesses!

(Don’t worry brothers! There’s a post coming for you concerning what the vision should look like in the near future. )

 

I believe this to be truth that can be taken to the bank any day of the week: No woman on EARTH can compare  nor equal the magnificence and splendor of the Black Woman!

 

I’m obviously prejudice in that regard ( and many, many other regards), and that’s OK.

She birthed me, she nurtured me, she raised me, she loved me…

…and she is the TRUE PROTECTOR, THE GATEKEEPTRESS, OF MY (OUR) REALITY!

 

I love you, Black Woman. The image below says it all!

 

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Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

a repost: The Only Worthwhile Investment We Ever Make

Waking Times Article originally posted on Waking Times (click link for original)

 

By: RJ Spina

We are all perpetually bombarded with an endless array of investment opportunities, be it an investment of our attention, energy, money, skill, sweat, emotions, knowledge, etc. But what if there was only ONE investment that perpetually yields an everlasting, incalculable, limitless dividend? 

Would that not obviously and always be the best investment, regardless of circumstances or context? But what if we simply can’t distinguish this ultimate investment opportunity from all the rest? It would be impossible to know if we have chosen this perfect investment unless every possible observed investment opportunity came with OUR direct knowingness that the speculative, transient, alluring concept of potential profits and mitigated losses were temporary and provided zero enduring benefits whatsoever.

That kind of awareness would be priceless beyond all measure. 

What if the Mind/Ego/Identity that makes, weighs and ultimately decides which investment to make was a SHADOW, a transitory illusion in and of itself? Would this knowingness not shed total illumination on the entirety of the investment playing field? 

Perhaps this transitory ‘I’, our physical existence and our outer personality, ONLY cares about preserving ITSELF because it is INCAPABLE of recognizing nor understanding what is ETERNAL? Maybe the ego/mind/identity, which receives, processes and interprets energy from the limited sensory realm only, simply cannot decipher nor recognize what ‘actually is?”

Is it possible that our ego/mind/identity construct, a flight or fight based program utilizing the five physical senses interpreted by the finite Human Mind, which are all transitory themselves, prevents us from ever touching our eternal WISDOM, our Sentience, heretofore making it impossible to ever recognize and make the best and ONLY eternal investment? 

Is this why we keep repeating physical incarnations with individual and societal empires rising and falling again and again with no real spiritual evolution unfolding? Is it the perpetual and feckless chasing of sensory pleasures, the fear based avoidance of pain and the illusion of security actually yielding nothing but repetition creating the experience of time?

Could all this be because we keep our Consciousness and therefore our opportunities and decisions confined to those that ONLY perpetuate the existence of our transitory ego/mind/identity and its sensory realm domain? 

If so, where are we to go from here? How are we to locate and subsequently spend our resources on THE single investment opportunity that always yields the greatest and ONLY true ROI? And does this supreme investment opportunity even exist? 

It does…

What is it the only thing that endures? Certainly not your mind or body. Certainly not your physical possessions. Certainly not your beliefs, concepts or your expectations. What is it that OBSERVES all of that phenomena, lifetime after lifetime? 

The Immortal You. Your Consciousness.

Maybe everyone should invest in the ONLY thing that endures, this Immortal YOU. The Awareness itself. Your Sentience. Your timeless, immortal Consciousness. 

When the body and mind dies, the REAL YOU does not and cannot ever die. The REAL YOU, the WITNESS to every thought, feeling, action and experience your body and mind ever has simply endures.

But am I not my thoughts, feelings and experiences? No. How can one be the witness and the victim/perpetrator of the thought at the same time? This WITNESS (Soul) is on a perpetual expansion investment strategy with no endpoint, ever, and your SOUL is the ONLY thing that endures so why not go all in on the only thing that is REAL? Why not cut out the middleman, your transient, fake identity and all its desires, fears, expectations and beliefs, and invest directly in the REAL YOU?

Afraid of what you will lose? The prison of your ego/mind and your suffering is what will be lost forever. This ‘You’ who has the fear of loss doesn’t really exist and IT (your ego/mind) knows its time is running out. This illusionary, transitory identity who owns nothing, ever, has nothing except DOMINION over your immortal consciousness. This entity/identity, the ego/mind, must have your attention to even exist.

Have you deluded yourself into ‘thinking’ the outside world will change by analyzing it?

There’s an investment strategy that will yield only more analysis. And then more. And more. Shed yourself of that investment strategy now. Get out of it once and for all. Stop leaking all of your power, wisdom and courage on an illusion. 

If you cannot figure out how to invest in the REAL YOU, your experience in this life will be a perpetual struggle. If your commitment to your TRUE SELF is not followed up with the expenditure of tangible and intangible resources you have not made a commitment at all. One does not test drive spiritual evolution. It isn’t something to dabble in like the stock market, a new concept or so-called knowledge.

It requires skin in the game, so to speak, and you are already incarnate so your SOUL has everything to gain (Wisdom, Love and Power) and absolutely nothing to lose except its own self-imposed ignorance, greed and attachments. Everything we identify with prevents us from experiencing true freedom and achieving cosmic consciousness. All the concepts, beliefs and expectations you have invested in yield only more concepts, beliefs and expectations. More prisons for the Mind. More mental constructs. More Suffering. More problems. Grander Delusions. 

Invest in the ONE true investment opportunity directly, your Consciousness. The greatest technology that ever was, is, or will be is our developing SENTIENCE and it’s our ego/mind (desires and fears) and its preoccupation with its own survival that prevents us from this direct investment. Let’s divest ourselves of our transitory portfolio of short term investments; our expectations, our beliefs, our concepts, so-called knowledge and our identity. These investments only serve the ‘who’ and the ‘what’ that does not endure. Do not invest in striving towards acquiring more information or learning how to become capable of some skill but rather invest in the expanding of your awareness which deepens our eternal wisdom and enhances our power to act with compassion and courage.

When we pursue the desires, and avoid the fears of the outer personality, we are utilizing what appears to be our free will in a most inefficient manner. We are living perpetually in the past. Your identity is transient and so is its sensory realm experience and pursuits. These desires and fears are not worthwhile investments. The identity/mind/ego/thought is simply a conglomerate of past impressions from the sensory realm. Mimicry of the past. Knowledge itself is really justified belief; a recollection of the past, an imitation which simply leads to vanity and identity reinforcement. Bad investments across the board. Sell! 

Anything acquired via the sensory realm, the realm of illusion, is not a real investment. Instead, invest in the ONLY thing that ENDURES. In the only thing that IS. The only thing that REMAINS. The only thing that is REAL. The IMMORTAL YOU. Your CONSCIOUSNESS. All the books, articles, blogs and videos in the totality of all possible existence can never illicit the direct experience and knowingness of what a LIFE actually is. The very majesty, awe, vitality and divine intelligence that courses through us all in perpetuity. When does the investment of energy, in all its tangible and intangible forms, towards any object (goods, thoughts, concepts, beliefs) within the sensory realm do anything other than temporarily satiate a desire or momentarily quell a fear produced and experienced by our Mind/Ego/Identity? Is this not an investment strategy that should be avoided at all costs since it yields nothing except for that which does not endure? It’s not bad investment strategy, it’s more akin to insanity. 

If one has no direct experience of the TRUE SELF, then one can never choose the right investment. Is this why ‘civilized’ society is perpetually inundated with stimulus? Phenomena, by definition, is that which comes and goes and therefore an illusion. All poor investments then. Entertainment, technology, philosophy, information, beliefs, concepts, physical goods, experiences, ideologies, so called ‘knowledge’, spirituality, all sensory realm phenomena… What of this endures? It’s all very Human.

Does all of this not serve to keep us from our TRUE SELF and cosmic consciousness?

Then HOW do we invest in the one thing that endures, that is real, that perpetually yields the flowering of love, wisdom and power? 

Silence THAT which was born/produces/feeds on a need for stimulus in order to exist. Your MIND. Start there. We cannot deeply invest until we do so first. Fall in love with your own inner silence. It’s time to put the toys away. They may very well be taken from us anyway. Now we can begin investing in the limitless inner expansion of the only thing that endures…The REAL YOU. Awareness. Your SENTIENCE. Cosmic Consciousness. 

Meet me within that place. I remain in all eternity for you there…

A Q &A : What is Blackness to You?

 

From the Melanin Man:

So Mr. Melanin Man, what is Blackness to you?

“Well, if really want to hear what I have to say…

 

“Blackness is MORE than my caramel-copper skin tone or the twirl and curl of my hair uniquely referred to as a “nap.”

“Blackness is MORE than the sum of my struggles as a “person of color” growing up in the “land of milk and honey.”

“Blackness is MORE than the style of my wardrobe, the roots of my heritage, the gait in my walk, or the slang in my talk.

“Blackness is MORE than a two-hour fantasy film that gives a DEPICTION of what Blackness is from a foreign perspective.

 

“These are physical qualifiers that are SENSELESS to the advanced spiritual being that I AM!

 

“Blackness, to me, is AWAKENING the feminine energy that is primal to me from dormancy to practicality.

“Blackness, to me, is the NEVER ENDING QUEST, to constantly dive in the “dark abyss” to gain the KNOWLEDGE OF SELF.

“Blackness, to me, is placing the gift of my melanin, THE ESSENCE OF MY SOUL, under the stress of life trivialities to transform into the GOD I AM destined to be.

“Blackness, to me, is all-encompassing, infinite, ever-lasting, FOREVER AND ETERNITY!

 

That is what Blackness is to me.

And that is WHAT, not WHO, I AM!!!”

 

What is Blackness to you, fam?

 

 

Enjoy your Friday!

Peace and Love to my melanated family,

The Melanin Man

a repost: ‘Drowning the Land of the Ancestors’: In Sudan, an Ancient People are Fighting to Stop Their Culture and Legacy from Being Washed Away

Article posted on Atlanta Blackstar (click link for original)

 

Nubian Sites

By D. Amari Jackson

Several hours north of Khartoum by car — a mere 100 miles south of the Egyptian border — lies the sand-swept Sudanese town of Amara. Although its western half, Amara West, now appears as a desolate stretch of desert with little activity, the site was once the Nile-bound island home to the ancient Nubian kingdom of Kush and served as the administrative capital of Upper Nubia. And beneath the seemingly endless sands that now dominate the area lies the extraordinary remnants of this ancient people, their communities, their cultural and daily practices.

Over the years, through sporadic excavations, archaeologists in northern Sudan have unearthed thousands of artifacts, including pyramids, decorated tombs, circular buildings with large rooms and paved floors, and villas with garden plots, some well over 3,000 years old. Given recent attention to the area by the British Museum and their use of advanced magnet technology to measure telltale energy patterns in underground features, additional burial mounds, stone temples, communal structures and the bases of pyramids have all been detected beneath the sand.

“The magnetometry survey of 2008 revealed the hitherto unknown western suburb, with a series of large villas,” reported the British Museum as part of their Amara West research project. “One of these was excavated in 2009, and featured rooms for large-scale grain-processing and bread cooking, as well as private areas with brick-paved floors and whitewashed walls.”

However, the remainder of these submerged historic treasures might never reclaim the light of day. The Sudanese government has planned the construction of three hydroelectric dams in the region at Kajbar, Shereik and Dal to generate electricity from the Nile Valley, the sole stretch of fertile land in northern Sudan. Although two-thirds of the population lacks electricity, the massive reservoirs created by the projects will carry both dire and lasting consequences for the region. The Kajbar project alone would create a reservoir of 110 square kilometers while submerging some 90 villages, displacing more than 10,000 residents, and washing away more than 500 archeological sites, including thousands of rock etchings dating from the Neolithic to the medieval era.

Nubian residents have long protested these plans as the Sudanese government began wooing Chinese firms to their construction proposal well over a decade ago. In 2007, government security forces killed four and injured dozens of residents peacefully protesting the proposed Kajbar Dam, a brazen act the United Nations criticized as “excessive force” with “arbitrary arrests and prosecutions to stifle community protest against the Kajbar dam.” In 2010, the government awarded a $705 million, five-year contract to build the Kajbar Dam to Sinohydro, a Chinese company and the world’s largest hydropower contractor. However, the project lost steam due to a combination of popular resistance, politics and money until late 2015, when Sudanese president Omar al-Bashir convinced Saudi Arabia to finance the construction of all three dams.

Many residents believe, that along with gaining access to additional mineral resources like gold and iron ore, the dam projects are al-Bashir’s way of destroying Nubian heritage, culture and opposition through displacement and “Arabization,” the intentional spreading of Arab culture, language, identity and Islam to non-Arab populations. The controversial leader was charged by the International Criminal Court in 2010 with three counts of genocide in Darfur, where he was accused of trying to eradicate non-Arab ethnic groups in the region, and where hundreds of thousands died and millions were displaced. That same year, just weeks before the referendum where southerners chose secession from the country, al-Bashir delivered a speech in the southeastern village of Al Qadarif where he clarified, “If south Sudan secedes, we will change the constitution. Sharia and Islam will be the main source for the constitution, Islam the official religion and Arabic the official language.”

For their part, the Nubians, a people with ancient roots in both current-day Egypt and Sudan, are not planning to relinquish their land or culture without a serious fight, especially given how much they’ve already suffered from such construction projects. The Merowe Dam project in Sudan was completed in 2009, increasing the nation’s electricity but displacing and impoverishing more than 50,000 indigenous people from the Nile Valley. Many of those displaced never received the electricity or the compensation they were promised by their government. And it wasn’t the first time, as large Nubian territories in Egypt have already been lost to similar projects.

“We will never allow any force on the earth to blur our identity and destroy our heritage and nation,” proclaimed the Association of Nubians, a group opposed to the project, in a November 2015 statement. “Nubians will never play the role of victims, and will never sacrifice for the second time to repeat the tragedy of the Aswan Dam.”

The construction of the Aswan High Dam in Egypt over a half-century ago flooded hundreds of archeological sites while displacing over 100,000 residents from their homes, many of them Nubian.

“If the construction of the Aswan High Dam in the 1960s served as a warning, if you will, then the repercussions are going to be terrible, not just because of the loss of an untold number of archaeological artifacts, temples and tombs, but also because of the effect on the environment and human life,” stressed Anthony Browder, a cultural historian, author and educational consultant who researched ancient sites in northern Sudan in 2015. The popular international lecturer has traveled to Egypt 55 times and has conducted 23 archeological missions to the region since 2009. Browder is currently excavating two 25th Dynasty tombs of Kushite nobles in Egypt as the first African-American to fund and coordinate an archeological dig in the country.

Browder pointed out the dire and ongoing consequences in Egypt, including a mass “displacement of tens of thousands of Nubians from their ancestral homeland,” a rise in the water table that is now leaching water into and dissolving many of the country’s priceless stone monuments, and additional environmental impacts that have polluted the Nile, hampered local agriculture and been associated with increasing rates of pancreatic cancer. “I’ve lost two very close Egyptian friends to pancreatic cancer within the last eight years,” revealed Browder, noting the “same type of things will happen in Sudan when these other dams come online.”

As further confirmation of the history at stake, the eleventh-hour international effort prompted by Aswan to salvage as many artifacts as possible led to one of the great discoveries in archaeological history. In 1962, a research team led by Keith Seele of the University of Chicago Oriental Institute Nubian Expedition uncovered a pharaonic dynasty in Sudan which predated the first pharaonic period in Egypt. However, Seele buried his extraordinary findings from Qutsul (Ta-Seti) which included the beginnings of the Medu Neter sacred writing system later called “hieroglyphs” by the Greeks, an incense burner with pharaonic markings, and the royal crown of the south depicted on the heads of a dozen pharaohs prior to the unification and first pharaoh of ancient Egypt (Kmt). Almost two decades later, the find would further confirm the well-documented Black African foundations and lineage of the pharaonic Egyptian dynasties despite ongoing and often pathetic campaigns by the white and Arab Egyptology establishment to claim otherwise.

Outside of this historic find, explained Browder, what made the situation even more significant was that the Oriental Institute “made discoveries that Seele refused to release. It was only after he died in an automobile accident that his protégé Bruce Williams brought this information to light.” If it wasn’t for Williams, added Browder, “we wouldn’t know about Ta-Seti, the oldest monarchy known to man, the Qutsul incense burner, and other evidence that has proven the Kushite influence on Kemetic (ancient Egyptian) civilization.”

Such rich history is, once again, in need of rescue. “When I was in Sudan two-and-half years ago we found that a number of sites had in fact been built during the 18th Dynasty when Egyptians had control of that part of Nubia, that part of Kush,” said Browder. However, he stressed that both Kemetic and Kushitic cultures recorded their common belief that Gebel Barkal in northern Sudan was the home and birthplace of the major neterw — loosely translated as “gods” or deities — Amen, Djehuti, Ausar and Auset. The ruins of the Temple of Amen are still visible in Gebel Barkal today. So, suggested Browder, “it stands to reason that the oldest temples to Amen, Ausar and Auset are in Kush and Ethiopia and probably have yet to be excavated.”

Still, even with the serious and ongoing threats to these rich historical sites in present-day Sudan and to the ancient Nubian culture that both reflects and reveres them, Browder’s optimism is reflective of the adage that “truth crushed to earth shall rise again.”